Saturday, November 20, 2010

Men, need I say more?

Men, you gotta love 'em.  An acquaintance of mine and I got into an interesting conversation about men and how they have changed over the years.  She is about 10 - 15 years older than me.  We were talking about how her husband prior to retirement, would come home from work and expect the house to be clean, dinner on the table, even though she worked a full time job also.  How men in general would come in, sit down, read the newspaper and relax, while the women would come in, tend to the kids, house, dinner, and whatever else needed tending to.  I told her how my Mom worked and then came home, tended to us, cleaned up, fixed dinner, cause when my Dad got home we ate.  Dinner was like clockwork, 5:30 p.m. on the dot.
Then she said that her son, wasn't like that.  I said my husband wasn't either, but he could try.  haha
I think that men who came into adulthood in the early sixties or earlier did have a more defined role and expected their women to also fill a defined role.  Even if women worked, the men were the 'breadwinners' and women were the 'housekeepers'.  True, that it was more common for women to be stay at home wives and mothers than it is today.  Father Knows Best anyone?  Most households can not afford for the wife to stay at home these days.  Not to mention that women, since the sexual revolution and women's lib movements of the sixties, have wanted to have some independence financially, in their own right. 
My husband and I both work full time.  He is a truck driver who comes in late after 5 days out on the road, is home 2 days, and goes back to work early the next day.  I work 3 days a week, 12 hour shifts.  My schedule rotates every 3 weeks.  Sometimes, I work the days he is off, like today, so he usually has supper made, or is cooking when I get home.  Now that I have more time off, having recently changed from administration (Mon - Fri) back to being a peon, and actually have more time at home, I don't usually expect him to clean house, wash clothes, etc.  We did have someone come in before about once a month to do deep cleaning, but I don't need it now.  Unfortunately for him, I ran home from work this morning for a minute and gave him a honey do list.  It wasn't much, fold what is in the dryer and dry what was in the washer.  Easy enough.  But for him to expect dinner at the same time every night that he's home, etc, etc... oh no....that wouldn't work.  Not that I am some ultra feminist, but I'm no push over either!  Just my thoughts.....:)
So most of the bloggers that I've come across are a generation younger than me. What are your thoughts on men these days?


Days Like These by Tanyetta said...

We are in our 40's. My husband LOVES to cook. I HATE to cook. So we have compromises. HE cooks and goes to work full time to take care of our family. I clean, take care of the kids, take care of the financials, housekeeping, etc..It's a great balance because we both help out. I think he's a better get on the floor and play with the kids type of parent too. My back and butt hurts when I sit on the floor! LOL

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